Posted by on Mar 31, 2014 in blog, Health | 0 comments

How many times have you heard, “happiness is a journey not a destination” or “happiness is the way”? I know for myself, I have heard it many times, but I don’t know that in my early years I truly understood what it meant. When we are young, we hear a lot of wisdom, but we’re not always able to decipher the message or meaning. If we hear it and hold onto it enough, at some point in time, the benefits of this wisdom starts to seep into our consciousness. Of course now, when I see this wisdom, it makes perfect sense even though in my younger days I believed I understood it, when I truly didn’t. For what is happiness?

It can be very ambiguous with multiple meanings and perceptions. What might make you happy doesn’t necessarily make someone else happy, and so it seems it becomes more of a perception than an actual tangible ‘thing’.  What shapes and decides our perceptions – our level of contentment and satisfaction? It seems in many cases in life, our feeling of contentment, happiness, and overall sense of peace is directly related to our tendencies to compare what we believe we are experiencing versus another. It’s kind of a crazy wisdom, if you really dig down deep and get into it. To help bring it into better light, when we hear or read a statement, such as ‘you can’t know true happiness without feeling sadness’, it helps shift us into a comparative mindset. This mindset allows for contrast, because it seems completely reasonable to think that if you continually felt happiness, you would never know what sadness felt like. Therefore, the opposite can be true as well. If you continually felt sadness, you would never know what happiness felt like. It comes down to perspective, and within that perspective a comparative value of what you perceive your happiness to be based upon.

A lot of people tend to believe that money will bring them happiness, and in a lot of circumstances, happiness can be felt through the experience of money. However, it’s not really the money that brings happiness. It’s the perception of a comparative value based on your perception that your direct experience is now better than it was before, because the money allowed you to have a different experience than what you were experiencing prior. If it was money that truly made you happy, you would never have a reason or a desire to have your salary increased. For instance, let’s say your boss gave you a $5,000 raise. I am more than sure within that moment, and maybe several moments beyond that, you might feel exceptionally happy and joyful. But as we all know, regardless of the extra money we earn, at some point in time, we get used to that level of income. When this happens, the happiness tends to go away once again. So it’s at this point, we believe that if we had more money, we would once again be happy. The cycle would have to repeat in order to sustain the happiness. We would make more money and get used to it, and then again desire even more money, in hopes that we can sustain the same level of happiness.

Happiness truly is the one thing that we cannot buy. I personally know several people who have done very well financially, in fact so well, that their monies could sustain several generations of their own family; however the happiness is currently nowhere to be found within their life. This cycle of believing money brings happiness is delusional, at best, for there is never enough money to sustain one’s happiness, if your heart is not filled with love and peace.

When we compare what we have / do not have, and try to base our happiness upon that, we might find happiness within a brief moment, but we will never experience it as a lasting emotion. The same goes when we look around and compare ourselves to other people, the cars we drive, the houses we live in, the vacations we take, etc. Our sense of happiness always seems to be comparative in nature. We’re always comparing against something, or someone, and because of this, we may not quite understand that happiness is the journey and not the destination. Happiness is not attached to anything material, or an end-date, or a specific location…  Happiness is a mindset of how you interpret the world around you and all the life experiences you live.

Happiness is the journey. It’s in the moments you deeply breathe in that fill every experience with gratitude. Happiness is about being grateful that every moment you have is a moment to expand your consciousness and your knowledge. Happiness is about approaching life with the mindset that every experience gives you an opportunity to become a better version of yourself. It’s about embracing life fully, staying in the moments, and realizing the life you have is a gift to express yourself as a vibrational being of light. Happiness is an energy that is always present, always available and abundantly yours.

Happiness is appreciating all that you have, and not dwelling on what you believe you do not have. It’s about opening your heart and allowing love and joy to flow through it, with a sense of bewilderment and wonder. Happiness is not controlling and does not allow fear. It is our innate spiritual state, which only becomes blurred because of mental concepts that we choose to create or hold onto. True happiness can only be obtained moment to moment, as we walk our paths to wherever it is we are going.

If you still believe that money and material things brings happiness, I challenge you to count everything in your life that brings true and lasting happiness but never cost you a single penny. And then I ask you, how much money would you sell it all for?



Dean Schaefer

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